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Surviving the Holidays and Family Trauma

Jan 4
3 min

Surviving the Holidays and Family Trauma

For many people, the holidays are a time of joy and excitement... ...as we see friends and family that we may not have seen for several months prior, especially with the end of the Covid lockdowns. An opportunity to enjoy each other’s company, to embrace each other’s laughter and energy, and an opportunity to reinforce old relationships and to develop new connections. And yet for many people, there can be a darker side to the holidays. The holidays can represent a painful tim

Naughty or Nice. Holiday Survival Guide.

Dec 29, 2022
2 min

Naughty or Nice. Holiday Survival Guide.

Part 5 - New Year So, with the New Year finally upon us, I will keep this one short and brief. I am sure many of us have way more interesting plans and parties to get to anyway!! But if we survived the Christmas holiday, and if we survive all the New Year Eves parties, then come the even more dreaded: New Year’s Resolutions!!!! I am sure at this point in our lives, many of us make New Year’s resolutions with the firm and undeniable feeling that we will, “make them to break th

Naughty or Nice. Holiday Survival Guide.

Dec 22, 2022
2 min

Naughty or Nice. Holiday Survival Guide.

Part 4 – Finally!! One of the best parts of the holidays is that final day when all of that anticipation finally reaches climax!!! The Grande Finale!!! The anticipation of fantasies, no matter if sexual or otherwise, always leads to the excitement and appetite required to devour and enjoy a main course! In fact, research shows time and time again that the longer we have to wait for something, the more likely we are to report enjoying it (which is really unfortunate given that

Naughty or Nice. Holiday Survival Guide.

Dec 14, 2022
2 min

Naughty or Nice. Holiday Survival Guide.

Part 3 – Anticipation. Without a doubt, one of the most anticipated events of the holiday season is the amazing appetites we develop just daydreaming about the delicious food we are going to devour. In fact, those fantasies we have around food ignite our imagination, tease our senses and drive our desires. In fact, the vast amount of joy that comes from consuming those foods is from the buildup of anticipation that those fantasies create. So just daydreaming of that succulent

Naughty or Nice. Holiday Survival Guide.

Dec 8, 2022
2 min

Naughty or Nice. Holiday Survival Guide.

Part 2. Naughty. I think one of the cleverest aspects of the holiday season is the concept of Santa Claus and his ability to determine who is naughty or nice… (Apparently by watching us while we are awake and while we are sleeping). The concept is clearly designed for children who are taught to believe that "if you’re nice you get presents and if you are naughty, you get coal." But what about those of us kids who not only wanted coal but wanted to see just how much coal we co

Naughty or Nice. Holiday Survival Guide.

Nov 29, 2022
2 min

Naughty or Nice. Holiday Survival Guide.

Boundaries protect us and the better boundaries we have, the happier we will be! So, make sure to schedule some “you” time.

Gratitude Works Best When It Goes Both Ways. Beware of Mepathy

Nov 21, 2022
2 min

Gratitude Works Best When It Goes Both Ways. Beware of Mepathy

There is an old saying, “You get more of what you give to others.” Relationships work best when they are balanced, just like anything else in life really. Think of plants or the tire pressure in your car tires, or sustainability in the environment. When life is out of balance, it does not work very well and nobody is happy. Not only do relationships do better when balanced, but people’s lives are better when balanced too. We need “Work-Life” balance or learn to balance the re

Building Connections. The Ultimate Survival Guide.

Nov 14, 2022
3 min

Building Connections. The Ultimate Survival Guide.

I feel like November is just a good time to sit back, reflect on our lives... look forward to Christmas and Holiday Seasons, maybe get a little bit of shopping done, but otherwise engage in lazy Sunday afternoon dinners with friends and family. But where does this desire to reflect come from? Well, mammals are a group of vertebrate animals known for their memory glands, neocortex, fur or hair, and 3 middle ear bones. However, I think what truly sets mammals apart is their abi

Remembrance Is A Perfect Time For Reflection And Gratitude

Nov 7, 2022
2 min

Remembrance Is A Perfect Time For Reflection And Gratitude

November 11th marks one of the most sombre and important times of reflection for many of us. It is typically recognized as Remembrance Day in Canada, where we reflect on the ultimate sacrifice provided by so many, past and present, so that we and others can live lives of freedom, happiness, and joy. Like any other holiday, many people will have mixed feelings over what it represents, or who it represents, or who it forgets to represent. I’ve travelled to Europe, I have seen t

You Always Get More of What you Are Grateful For

Nov 1, 2022
2 min

You Always Get More of What you Are Grateful For

There is an old saying, “We always get more of what we are grateful for”. If we survived all the kinky, decadent debaucheries and fantasies, dressing up, and partying for Halloween; then November is the perfect time to reflect on Gratitude, both left over from Thanksgiving but also looking forward to a time of remembrance on November 11th. Many people report wanting to have more sex, better sex, and deeper intimacy in their lives. Oftentimes in our relationships, we will star

Halloween is the Perfect time for Dress up and Erotism …

Oct 25, 2022
2 min

Halloween is the Perfect time for Dress up and Erotism …

Halloween is the Perfect time for Dress up and Erotism …

Speaking of Fantasy Bonding and Fantasies. Halloween Awaits…

Oct 19, 2022
2 min

Speaking of Fantasy Bonding and Fantasies. Halloween Awaits…

And now that one of my favourite holidays has not come to an end, I get to look forward with great anticipation and enthusiasm towards my favourite time of year. Halloween… In many ways Halloween embodies what it means to be human better than any other holiday. Halloween entices us to participate in our imaginations for dressing up, role-playing, and engaging in theatre, drama, and art. Halloween encourages us to gather together, with the exchange of treats, food, parties and

Children and Families and Holidays. Oh My!

Oct 11, 2022
2 min

Children and Families and Holidays. Oh My!

Thanksgiving is one of my favourite long weekends. We get to visit friends, we get to visit family, and most of all we get to enjoy loads and loads of pumpkin pie! Or, pumpkin spice everything else. Yet, what can be an exciting time of connection and fellowship with friends and family for some, can also be a time of fear and dread and apprehension. As I have written about previously, many people enter any holiday with the idea of Fantasy Bonding, or the expectation of what ho

It Is All About Relationships.

Oct 3, 2022
2 min

It Is All About Relationships.

Although we call ourselves Sex Therapists, we really should be calling ourselves Relationship Mechanics, Experts, and Therapists. Becoming a certified sex therapist is not just about focusing on sex, but it is focusing on everything around sex, what leads to sex, but also what leads to intimacy, and ultimately connection. This connection occurs in every area of our lives, from our vocational relationships to our romantic relationships, to our family relationships, and our rel

Growth and Assertive Communication

Jul 20, 2022
2 min

Growth and Assertive Communication

Communication is at the root of how we live and coordinate our lives,

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