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Naughty or Nice. Holiday Survival Guide.

Dec 8, 2022
2 min

Naughty or Nice. Holiday Survival Guide.

Part 2. Naughty. I think one of the cleverest aspects of the holiday season is the concept of Santa Claus and his ability to determine who is naughty or nice… (Apparently by watching us while we are awake and while we are sleeping). The concept is clearly designed for children who are taught to believe that "if you’re nice you get presents and if you are naughty, you get coal." But what about those of us kids who not only wanted coal but wanted to see just how much coal we co

Naughty or Nice. Holiday Survival Guide.

Nov 29, 2022
2 min

Naughty or Nice. Holiday Survival Guide.

Boundaries protect us and the better boundaries we have, the happier we will be! So, make sure to schedule some “you” time.

Gratitude Works Best When It Goes Both Ways. Beware of Mepathy

Nov 21, 2022
2 min

Gratitude Works Best When It Goes Both Ways. Beware of Mepathy

There is an old saying, “You get more of what you give to others.” Relationships work best when they are balanced, just like anything else in life really. Think of plants or the tire pressure in your car tires, or sustainability in the environment. When life is out of balance, it does not work very well and nobody is happy. Not only do relationships do better when balanced, but people’s lives are better when balanced too. We need “Work-Life” balance or learn to balance the re

Building Connections. The Ultimate Survival Guide.

Nov 14, 2022
3 min

Building Connections. The Ultimate Survival Guide.

I feel like November is just a good time to sit back, reflect on our lives... look forward to Christmas and Holiday Seasons, maybe get a little bit of shopping done, but otherwise engage in lazy Sunday afternoon dinners with friends and family. But where does this desire to reflect come from? Well, mammals are a group of vertebrate animals known for their memory glands, neocortex, fur or hair, and 3 middle ear bones. However, I think what truly sets mammals apart is their abi

Remembrance Is A Perfect Time For Reflection And Gratitude

Nov 7, 2022
2 min

Remembrance Is A Perfect Time For Reflection And Gratitude

November 11th marks one of the most sombre and important times of reflection for many of us. It is typically recognized as Remembrance Day in Canada, where we reflect on the ultimate sacrifice provided by so many, past and present, so that we and others can live lives of freedom, happiness, and joy. Like any other holiday, many people will have mixed feelings over what it represents, or who it represents, or who it forgets to represent. I’ve travelled to Europe, I have seen t

You Always Get More of What you Are Grateful For

Nov 1, 2022
2 min

You Always Get More of What you Are Grateful For

There is an old saying, “We always get more of what we are grateful for”. If we survived all the kinky, decadent debaucheries and fantasies, dressing up, and partying for Halloween; then November is the perfect time to reflect on Gratitude, both left over from Thanksgiving but also looking forward to a time of remembrance on November 11th. Many people report wanting to have more sex, better sex, and deeper intimacy in their lives. Oftentimes in our relationships, we will star

Halloween is the Perfect time for Dress up and Erotism …

Oct 25, 2022
2 min

Halloween is the Perfect time for Dress up and Erotism …

Halloween is the Perfect time for Dress up and Erotism …

Speaking of Fantasy Bonding and Fantasies. Halloween Awaits…

Oct 19, 2022
2 min

Speaking of Fantasy Bonding and Fantasies. Halloween Awaits…

And now that one of my favourite holidays has not come to an end, I get to look forward with great anticipation and enthusiasm towards my favourite time of year. Halloween… In many ways Halloween embodies what it means to be human better than any other holiday. Halloween entices us to participate in our imaginations for dressing up, role-playing, and engaging in theatre, drama, and art. Halloween encourages us to gather together, with the exchange of treats, food, parties and

Children and Families and Holidays. Oh My!

Oct 11, 2022
2 min

Children and Families and Holidays. Oh My!

Thanksgiving is one of my favourite long weekends. We get to visit friends, we get to visit family, and most of all we get to enjoy loads and loads of pumpkin pie! Or, pumpkin spice everything else. Yet, what can be an exciting time of connection and fellowship with friends and family for some, can also be a time of fear and dread and apprehension. As I have written about previously, many people enter any holiday with the idea of Fantasy Bonding, or the expectation of what ho

It Is All About Relationships.

Oct 3, 2022
2 min

It Is All About Relationships.

Although we call ourselves Sex Therapists, we really should be calling ourselves Relationship Mechanics, Experts, and Therapists. Becoming a certified sex therapist is not just about focusing on sex, but it is focusing on everything around sex, what leads to sex, but also what leads to intimacy, and ultimately connection. This connection occurs in every area of our lives, from our vocational relationships to our romantic relationships, to our family relationships, and our rel

Yes, Raising Children is like Herding Velociraptors

Sep 26, 2022
3 min

Yes, Raising Children is like Herding Velociraptors

Sometimes raising children helps you understand why some animals eat their young... Anyone who has ever spent significant time with a toddler will tell you they learned many things about themselves; including the definition of patience, kindness and why other animals sometimes eat their young, (don’t worry, this will be normal until they are out of the house). Although the fences are electrified, the raptors never attacked the same place twice. They remember… For anyone old e

Babies, What Better Way to Kill a Sex Drive

Sep 19, 2022
3 min

Babies, What Better Way to Kill a Sex Drive

Many first-time parents report that they were unprepared for the amount of stress that the initial baby brings to their lives. Feelings of

Sex Therapy to Help Conceive

Sep 14, 2022
2 min

Sex Therapy to Help Conceive

Unfortunately, and perhaps somewhat ironically, one of the best ways to kill a sex drive and a sex life, is when trying to conceive.

Sex, Sex, and more Sex, how to have more of it

Sep 4, 2022
3 min

Sex, Sex, and more Sex, how to have more of it

Without question, one of the most common themes that bring any clients into sex therapy is they are both seeking more sex! Without question, one of the most common themes that bring any clients into sex therapy is because they are both seeking more sex and intimacy in their lives, typically with their partner(s). There are many models and theories as to what keeps sexuality alive between people, over the long-term, as well as why human sexuality seems to somewhat decline with

Certified Sex Therapists and Counselors

Aug 24, 2022
2 min

Certified Sex Therapists and Counselors

Certified Sex Therapist, requires a whole other level of training, education, and supervision. In our society there are many designations and titles that are actually protected by the law, such as being a medical doctor, a lawyer, registered engineer, or registered psychologist. However, there are many titles that are not protected by the law, such as life coach, counsellor, therapist, or sex therapist. Although many individuals can receive some form of training or certificat

So, What is Sex and Intimacy Counseling Anyways?

Aug 17, 2022
2 min

So, What is Sex and Intimacy Counseling Anyways?

Many clients are amazed to discover just how many different people in relationships struggle to maintain healthy levels of sex and intimacy

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