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Expectations in Relationships

Making Marriages Work. Part 5

Expectations are an inevitable part of any relationship. We all have hopes, desires, and assumptions about how our relationships should be. However, managing these expectations in a healthy and realistic manner is crucial for the long-term success and happiness of the relationship.

First and foremost, it is essential to understand that no two individuals are exactly alike.

Each person brings their own set of values, beliefs, and experiences into a relationship.

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It is unrealistic to expect our partner to meet all our needs and fulfill every desire.

Open and honest communication plays a vital role in managing expectations. It is important to discuss and negotiate expectations openly with our partner. Clearly expressing our needs, desires, and boundaries helps to avoid misunderstandings and potential conflicts. However, it is equally important to listen attentively to our partner's expectations and be willing to compromise and find middle ground (Please never assume the other person should know what your expectations are).

Another key aspect of managing healthy expectations is having realistic expectations. Romantic movies and fairy tales often paint an unrealistic picture of love and relationships, leading to unrealistic expectations. Understanding that relationships require effort, compromise, and growth is essential. Recognizing that there will be ups and downs, and that both partners will make mistakes, allows for a more realistic and forgiving outlook on the relationship.

Flexibility and adaptability are also important in managing expectations. Life is constantly changing, and our expectations may need to adjust accordingly. Being open to change and willing to adapt to new circumstances can prevent disappointment and frustration. It is essential to embrace the idea that relationships are a journey of growth and development for both individuals involved (Life is probably not always going to work out how you wanted to, but that is not necessarily a bad thing).

a young girl lying on the pavement having a temper tantrum because she did not get her own way

As we said on the farm, just because you want something to happen doesn’t mean it’s going to happen, and that doesn’t mean you have the right to get upset just because something doesn’t happen the way you wanted it to.

Come heal, grow and create together

Signature of Jessica Blake


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