Communication is without a doubt the biggest dilemma that brings individuals and couples into counselling.
When we want to grow, we first must identify the areas in which we want to grow.
Communication is at the root of how we live our lives, connect with people around us, build relationships, cultivate friendships, pursue business interests, and effectively coordinate our lives. In fact, when you look at any animal species on the planet, many different lifeforms have developed at least even minor forms of communication, whether it’s visual, auditory, or olfactory. The more effective we are in our communication, the happier we are going to be. So how does assertive communication tie into growth?
This is one of the most unique ways to start the process of growth,
When we want to grow, we first must identify the areas in which we want to grow.
If there are areas that we have in mind, these areas of growth are known to everybody and are considered common knowledge. If there are areas of growth that somebody else knows and that we do not, this is typically called feedback. For many people it is difficult to hear feedback, without feeling criticized, or are automatically defensive. Often times when people are given feedback their immediate reaction is self-defence, protection, and then a good offense.
For example, the old argument, “you never do this”, to which the other person says “I always do this.” It becomes a nauseating loop that individuals and couples are often tired of riding. Therefore, one of the most unique ways to start the process of growth, either in an individual or in a relationship, is to start asking for feedback from people around us, clarifying what the feedback is, and the positives that they hope are going to be gained. Once this information is provided, individuals can then incorporate this feedback into themselves, and start the process of “growth”.
Growth doesn’t mean we are bad, negative, or even inadequate.
Growth just means that we're taking something and making it even better! On the farm, we
called it Hot-Rodding, and during the prohibition, many bootleggers would do up their automobiles to make them even faster. How do you want to supercharge your relationship?
Come heal, grow and create together
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